When Do People Take Your Boundaries Seriously?

The awareness of boundaries is becoming a recurring theme in many of my coaching conversations, pertaining to leadership these days. Along with my own journey with setting and holding boundaries, which again showed up this week on a couple of different levels.

When we have been moving through life or leading a team without boundaries in place, and all of a sudden we start to show up or manage our time differently, it can have a profound impact on those around us. Especially, if we don't communicate to our key people, what changes are taking place and more importantly WHY.

All this and more had me thinking more deeply; when do people begin taking your boundaries seriously?

Here are 7 things, we need to shift or stop doing ourselves, so that others will begin to honour our boundaries in our personal and professional lives:

~ making them optional
~ using them to get even
~ dishonouring them yourself

~ only enforcing them out of frustration
~ backtracking or moving them when someone doesn't agree
~ posing them as questions instead of statements
~ communicating with a lack of clarity; be assertive